The Value of Bickering

     The value of bickering?  What?!  How could there be ANY value when children bicker and siblings seem to fight near to death?

     I can't imagine ever reaching the point of being truly thankful for the arguments that are waged in our home, but I have come to appreciate the value behind it all.  Ecclesiastes 4 says, "Two are better than one," and we all know that if we only had one child there wouldn't be any bickering -- so how could Solomon, the wisest man that ever lived, say two are better?

     Take heart, dear mom,  there are godly, mature adults being formed in those little bodies we call our children. 

     If it weren't for the challenges our children face in their relationships now, while we're present to guide them, then awful times would lie ahead in their futures.  Just as it's monumentally easier to learn a second language when you're a child compared to the frustration of learning one as an adult, so it's true with the lessons of life found in the home at a young age. 

     The lessons our children learn now as we train them how to communicate their feelings, control their natural reactions and offer or seek forgiveness are invaluable to their future. 

     Could we go as far as saying these lessons are even more valuable than any academics they may pursue?

     What's really happening as our little ones attempt to swing their arms and raise their voices to decibels that threaten to shake the rafters?  With our help and intervention, they're making each other stronger individuals. 

     In Proverbs 27, we're told that ,"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another."  And what happens when iron hits iron?  Sparks fly!  It's not always pleasant or pretty as we would choose or prefer, but can you see it's necessary?

     So should we lower our standards and let those fists fly freely in the living room boxing ring? 

     No, I believe as godly parents we are called on to train each of our children in the way they SHOULD go, not the way they naturally go.  That means strenuous work on our part, with long hours and little reward in the early years.

     One day, if we don't give up, we'll look around and notice . . .
    
     ~ a little more peace in the air,

     ~ an apology offered without prompting,

     ~ or even a gentle smile where there could have been offense,

     and we'll raise our hands in victory because God will have rewarded the labour of our hearts and hands.

     Never give up, moms!  Children's voices can hurt our hearts and the bickering shake our heads, but as long as they have breath, there is hope. 

     The enemy's tactic is to whisper that our children are different than the ones down the street, or that they will never change, BUT that is not God's final word.  We have God's final word that the reward waits for those who persevere in these challenging times.

"Let us not grow tired

of doing what is good.

At just the right time

we WILL reap a

harvest of blessing IF

we don't give up."

Galatians 6:9